{"id":4757,"date":"2026-08-15T09:56:02","date_gmt":"2026-08-15T09:56:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/evanastory.com\/?p=4757"},"modified":"2026-08-15T09:56:02","modified_gmt":"2026-08-15T09:56:02","slug":"i-came-home-from-deployment-and-found-my-wife-bald-and-starving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/evanastory.com\/?p=4757","title":{"rendered":"I Came Home From Deployment and Found My Wife Bald and Starving"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For four years, I sent nearly $100,000 home while serving overseas.<\/p>\n<p>Every transfer had the same purpose in my mind.<\/p>\n<p>Keep the house running.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone  wp-image-4758\" src=\"https:\/\/evanastory.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/773614797_122239796564111608_504763529264377315_n-242x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"662\" height=\"821\" srcset=\"https:\/\/evanastory.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/773614797_122239796564111608_504763529264377315_n-242x300.jpg 242w, https:\/\/evanastory.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/773614797_122239796564111608_504763529264377315_n-768x953.jpg 768w, https:\/\/evanastory.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/773614797_122239796564111608_504763529264377315_n.jpg 825w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 662px) 100vw, 662px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Keep Gwen safe.<\/p>\n<p>Make sure the people I loved did not have to struggle because I was thousands of miles away.<\/p>\n<p>I never imagined the money would become the reason I stopped recognizing my own home.<\/p>\n<p>When my unit finally received emergency leave after our last deployment, I did something I had been thinking about for months.<\/p>\n<p>I told nobody I was coming.<\/p>\n<p>Not my mother.<\/p>\n<p>Not my sister.<\/p>\n<p>Not even Gwen.<\/p>\n<p>I wanted to surprise my wife.<\/p>\n<p>That decision felt romantic on the flight home.<\/p>\n<p>By the time I reached the house, it felt like the only reason I ever learned the truth.<\/p>\n<p>For four years, Gwen had been the face I carried through every miserable night away.<\/p>\n<p>When sleep would not come, I looked at old pictures of her.<\/p>\n<p>When I was exhausted, I remembered the way she laughed with her whole face.<\/p>\n<p>When another month passed and home felt impossibly far away, I imagined the moment I would finally walk through the door.<\/p>\n<p>In that version, Gwen ran toward me.<\/p>\n<p>I dropped my bag.<\/p>\n<p>She wrapped her arms around me.<\/p>\n<p>Everything difficult became worth it for a minute.<\/p>\n<p>Reality looked nothing like that.<\/p>\n<p>The first thing I noticed when I arrived was the house.<\/p>\n<p>It had changed.<\/p>\n<p>A lot.<\/p>\n<p>The place was two stories now.<\/p>\n<p>The front gate looked expensive.<\/p>\n<p>A new truck sat in the driveway.<\/p>\n<p>Through the windows, I could see furniture that looked like it belonged in a showroom.<\/p>\n<p>For one stupid second, I felt proud.<\/p>\n<p>Nearly $100,000 had gone home while I was away.<\/p>\n<p>I had sent money whenever I could.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes I skipped things for myself because I believed every extra dollar mattered more at home.<\/p>\n<p>Standing there, looking at the renovations, I thought maybe the sacrifices had paid off.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe they had built something good with the money.<\/p>\n<p>I carried my bag around the side of the house instead of going straight through the front door.<\/p>\n<p>I was still planning the surprise.<\/p>\n<p>Then I heard water.<\/p>\n<p>Not a hose.<\/p>\n<p>Dishes.<\/p>\n<p>I stepped into the backyard.<\/p>\n<p>And saw my wife.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen was kneeling beside an old washbasin behind the house.<\/p>\n<p>For a second, my mind refused to connect the woman in front of me with the person I had come home to see.<\/p>\n<p>Her clothes hung from her body.<\/p>\n<p>Not loosely in the way oversized clothes sometimes do.<\/p>\n<p>They hung because she had lost so much weight there was barely anything holding them up.<\/p>\n<p>A knitted cap covered her head even though the afternoon was warm.<\/p>\n<p>She had one hand near the washbasin.<\/p>\n<p>With the other, she was gathering pieces of a broken plate from the ground.<\/p>\n<p>I stopped walking.<\/p>\n<p>Before I could say her name, my sister\u2019s voice came from inside.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat bald woman shouldn\u2019t even show her face when we have guests!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paige laughed after saying it.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen went completely still.<\/p>\n<p>Then she turned.<\/p>\n<p>She saw me.<\/p>\n<p>For four years, I had imagined her reaction.<\/p>\n<p>Every version involved her running toward me.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, Gwen stepped backward.<\/p>\n<p>Both hands flew immediately to her head.<\/p>\n<p>That frightened me more than the weight loss.<\/p>\n<p>More than the dirty washbasin.<\/p>\n<p>More than Paige\u2019s words.<\/p>\n<p>Why would my wife see me after four years and try to hide herself?<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGwen.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her eyes filled.<\/p>\n<p>I crossed the yard.<\/p>\n<p>She backed up another half step.<\/p>\n<p>Not because she was afraid of me.<\/p>\n<p>Because she seemed ashamed.<\/p>\n<p>That realization hit me like a fist.<\/p>\n<p>I reached for the edge of the knitted cap.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cCan I?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She did not answer.<\/p>\n<p>But she stopped holding it.<\/p>\n<p>I lifted it gently.<\/p>\n<p>Her scalp was shaved bare.<\/p>\n<p>There were tiny cuts against the skin.<\/p>\n<p>I stared.<\/p>\n<p>For several seconds, I could not breathe.<\/p>\n<p>The woman I loved looked like she had been stripped down to the smallest possible version of herself.<\/p>\n<p>Then the back door opened.<\/p>\n<p>My mother walked out.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret was wearing silk.<\/p>\n<p>Gold jewelry caught the afternoon light around her wrist and neck.<\/p>\n<p>Behind her came Paige, holding a new phone in one hand with a designer bag over her shoulder.<\/p>\n<p>The contrast was so sharp it almost felt staged.<\/p>\n<p>My wife, thin enough that her clothes sagged.<\/p>\n<p>My mother dressed in things I had helped pay for.<\/p>\n<p>My sister carrying things I had helped pay for.<\/p>\n<p>And behind them, a house transformed by money I had earned while believing Gwen was being cared for.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou don\u2019t need to overreact,\u201d Margaret said.<\/p>\n<p>I looked at her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOverreact?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGwen ruined her own hair with cheap chemicals.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>My mother said it with the tone of someone explaining a minor inconvenience.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThen she became obsessed with dieting.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paige laughed.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe\u2019s completely dramatic. She wastes your money and still wants everyone feeling sorry for her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Gwen lowered her head.<\/p>\n<p>She did not defend herself.<\/p>\n<p>That disturbed me.<\/p>\n<p>The Gwen I knew would have answered.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe not cruelly.<\/p>\n<p>But she would have answered.<\/p>\n<p>Then her sleeve slipped slightly.<\/p>\n<p>I saw white medical tape near her elbow.<\/p>\n<p>Beside it was the faded mark of an IV.<\/p>\n<p>My eyes went to Gwen.<\/p>\n<p>She immediately pulled her sleeve down.<\/p>\n<p>My hands curled into fists.<\/p>\n<p>For one second, every part of me wanted to demand answers right there.<\/p>\n<p>I wanted to ask why my wife looked sick.<\/p>\n<p>Why she was washing dishes outside.<\/p>\n<p>Why she was sleeping somewhere nobody had mentioned.<\/p>\n<p>Why my mother and sister looked comfortable while Gwen looked like she was disappearing.<\/p>\n<p>But four years in uniform had taught me something anger had never managed to teach.<\/p>\n<p>Information matters.<\/p>\n<p>If you know someone is lying, sometimes the worst thing you can do is let them know how much you already suspect.<\/p>\n<p>So I forced my hands open.<\/p>\n<p>Then I smiled.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI actually came home with good news.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The change in my mother was immediate.<\/p>\n<p>Her posture softened.<\/p>\n<p>Paige stopped laughing.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat good news?\u201d Margaret asked.<\/p>\n<p>I pretended to hesitate.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe Department of Defense approved my deployment compensation and military benefits.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I paused.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNearly four hundred thousand dollars.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paige\u2019s eyes widened.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret stared at me.<\/p>\n<p>I continued before either could ask too many questions.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThere\u2019s just paperwork involved.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat kind?\u201d my mother asked.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI need to prove what I own. Properties. Investments. Assets under my name.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That was all it took.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret started talking before we were even inside.<\/p>\n<p>She mentioned renovations.<\/p>\n<p>Paige mentioned another truck.<\/p>\n<p>Then vacations.<\/p>\n<p>Shopping.<\/p>\n<p>Bigger plans.<\/p>\n<p>I listened.<\/p>\n<p>I nodded.<\/p>\n<p>I let them imagine money that did not exist.<\/p>\n<p>Neither one asked why Gwen looked like she could barely stand.<\/p>\n<p>That told me almost as much as the lies.<\/p>\n<p>Inside, the house was even more expensive than it had appeared from the yard.<\/p>\n<p>New furniture.<\/p>\n<p>Decorative pieces.<\/p>\n<p>Fresh flooring.<\/p>\n<p>Everything polished.<\/p>\n<p>Everything chosen.<\/p>\n<p>Every room looked cared for.<\/p>\n<p>Except the person I had sent the money home to protect.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen moved quietly through the house.<\/p>\n<p>My mother barely acknowledged her.<\/p>\n<p>At one point Gwen reached for my bag.<\/p>\n<p>I stopped her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ve got it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Margaret gave a short laugh.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019ll spoil her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I looked at my mother.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe\u2019s my wife.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Margaret\u2019s smile held.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOf course.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That night, I learned where Gwen had been sleeping.<\/p>\n<p>It was not our bedroom.<\/p>\n<p>The bedroom had been changed.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, Gwen led me toward the back of the house.<\/p>\n<p>Past the laundry area.<\/p>\n<p>Past stacked boxes.<\/p>\n<p>Into a damp storage room.<\/p>\n<p>There was a narrow bed pushed against the wall.<\/p>\n<p>The ceiling was cracked.<\/p>\n<p>A small window barely opened.<\/p>\n<p>I stood in the doorway.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou sleep here?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Gwen looked down.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s okay.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She flinched slightly at my tone.<\/p>\n<p>I softened it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNo, Gwen. It isn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She sat on the edge of the bed.<\/p>\n<p>For a while, she said nothing.<\/p>\n<p>I sat beside her.<\/p>\n<p>The mattress dipped under almost no weight from her side.<\/p>\n<p>That scared me all over again.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat happened?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her hands began shaking.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPlease don\u2019t get angry.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNot at you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She looked at me.<\/p>\n<p>I had never seen that expression on her face before.<\/p>\n<p>It was fear mixed with exhaustion.<\/p>\n<p>Not fear that I would hurt her.<\/p>\n<p>Fear that the truth itself would hurt me.<\/p>\n<p>Slowly, she began unbuttoning her blouse.<\/p>\n<p>I almost stopped her.<\/p>\n<p>Then I saw the fresh scar across her chest.<\/p>\n<p>Biopsy.<\/p>\n<p>I knew enough to understand what I was looking at.<\/p>\n<p>My mouth went dry.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen\u2019s voice was barely above a whisper.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI have br:e:ast c:ancer.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The storage room seemed to move around me.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey found the tu:mor five months ago.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Five months.<\/p>\n<p>I stared at her.<\/p>\n<p>Five months while I was overseas sending money home.<\/p>\n<p>Five months while my mother sent messages telling me everything was fine.<\/p>\n<p>Five months while Paige posted pictures of new things.<\/p>\n<p>Five months while Gwen had apparently been fighting something that could kill her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhy didn\u2019t you tell me?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her face broke.<!--nextpage--> <\/p>\n<p>\u201cI tried.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Those two words hurt more than if she had blamed me.<\/p>\n<p>She told me the first symptoms had frightened her.<\/p>\n<p>She wanted to see a specialist.<\/p>\n<p>She needed three hundred dollars.<\/p>\n<p>Three hundred.<\/p>\n<p>I had transferred many times that amount during those months.<\/p>\n<p>So Gwen went to Margaret.<\/p>\n<p>She asked my mother for the money.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret refused.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe said I was making it up.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Gwen wiped her face.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe said I was trying to steal your military pay.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I felt pressure behind my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe said if I really loved you, I wouldn\u2019t distract you while you were deployed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I stood up.<\/p>\n<p>Then forced myself to sit again.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen reached for my sleeve.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPlease.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat did Paige do?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her hand tightened.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe watched my calls.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I looked at her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe checked when I used the phone. Sometimes Margaret kept it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The story came out slowly.<\/p>\n<p>Not because Gwen did not know what happened.<\/p>\n<p>Because shame had been wrapped around every part of it.<\/p>\n<p>The money I sent home never reached her when she needed it.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret controlled the household spending.<\/p>\n<p>Every request Gwen made became an accusation.<\/p>\n<p>She was told she was wasteful.<\/p>\n<p>She was told she was weak.<\/p>\n<p>She was told she should be grateful she had somewhere to live while I was gone.<\/p>\n<p>When she became visibly sick, Margaret insisted she was dieting for attention.<\/p>\n<p>Paige turned it into a joke.<\/p>\n<p>Then came the hair.<\/p>\n<p>I looked at Gwen\u2019s bare scalp.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat happened?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her eyes dropped.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI cut it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou cut your own hair?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She nodded.<\/p>\n<p>Then she told me why.<\/p>\n<p>She had reached the point where she believed no one in the house would give her the money she needed.<\/p>\n<p>She had one thing she thought she could sell.<\/p>\n<p>Her hair.<\/p>\n<p>She cut it off.<\/p>\n<p>Sold it for one hundred and fifty dollars.<\/p>\n<p>One hundred and fifty dollars.<\/p>\n<p>She used the money for transportation and part of the biopsy process.<\/p>\n<p>My wife had sold her hair to find out whether she had cancer while nearly $100,000 of my money had been flowing into the same household.<\/p>\n<p>I turned my face away.<\/p>\n<p>Not because I was ashamed of Gwen.<\/p>\n<p>Because I could not let her see what that sentence did to me.<\/p>\n<p>Above us, the house was quiet.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret had a large bedroom upstairs.<\/p>\n<p>Paige had one too.<\/p>\n<p>There was furniture everywhere.<\/p>\n<p>Jewelry.<\/p>\n<p>A truck.<\/p>\n<p>New electronics.<\/p>\n<p>And Gwen had sold her hair.<\/p>\n<p>I pulled her against me.<\/p>\n<p>She was so light.<\/p>\n<p>That frightened me again.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHold on a little longer.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She started crying against my uniform.<\/p>\n<p>I held her.<\/p>\n<p>I did not promise everything would be okay.<\/p>\n<p>I did not know that.<\/p>\n<p>I did not promise punishment.<\/p>\n<p>That was not what she needed.<\/p>\n<p>I promised only the thing I could control.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m here now.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She cried harder.<\/p>\n<p>Much later, Gwen fell asleep beside me.<\/p>\n<p>I remained awake under the cracked ceiling.<\/p>\n<p>I listened to the house settle.<\/p>\n<p>Above us were the people who had received my money and my trust.<\/p>\n<p>They believed the nearly $400,000 was real.<\/p>\n<p>They believed I needed their cooperation to claim it.<\/p>\n<p>They believed I had come home as the same man who had trusted them from thousands of miles away.<\/p>\n<p>They were wrong.<\/p>\n<p>The next morning, I acted exactly as if nothing had changed.<\/p>\n<p>That took more discipline than anything I had done the day before.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret sat at the breakfast table discussing the house.<\/p>\n<p>She wanted another bedroom renovated.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe a larger dining area.<\/p>\n<p>Paige scrolled through pictures on her phone.<\/p>\n<p>She showed me a truck she wanted.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSomething better this time,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen stood at the sink.<\/p>\n<p>I watched her shoulders shake slightly as she lifted a plate.<\/p>\n<p>I stood.<\/p>\n<p>Pulled out a chair.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSit.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Gwen looked at me.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret looked annoyed.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe\u2019s used to working,\u201d my mother said. \u201cDon\u2019t baby her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I looked at Gwen\u2019s wrists.<\/p>\n<p>Then at my mother\u2019s jewelry.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cActually, I need everyone\u2019s help.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Margaret\u2019s irritation disappeared.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWith the money?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paige put down her phone.<\/p>\n<p>I leaned back.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf I\u2019m going to prove assets and investments, I need records.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat records?\u201d Margaret asked.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEverything.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I kept my tone casual.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cStatements. Receipts. Titles. Renovation invoices. Anything bought or improved with the money I sent home.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paige smiled.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat should be easy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Margaret looked pleased.<\/p>\n<p>That surprised me.<\/p>\n<p>Then I understood why.<\/p>\n<p>She did not think the records were dangerous.<\/p>\n<p>She thought they were evidence of competence.<\/p>\n<p>In her mind, every expensive object in that house proved she had managed my money well.<\/p>\n<p>By noon, papers covered the dining table.<\/p>\n<p>A truck record.<\/p>\n<p>Renovation invoices.<\/p>\n<p>Furniture receipts.<\/p>\n<p>Account statements.<\/p>\n<p>Payments I did not recognize.<\/p>\n<p>Dates I definitely recognized.<\/p>\n<p>Dates when I had been overseas.<\/p>\n<p>Dates when Gwen had been asking for help.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret sat across from me explaining everything.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThis work upstairs was necessary.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I nodded.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThis furniture was an investment.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I nodded again.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPaige needed reliable transportation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Another nod.<\/p>\n<p>Every explanation gave me another piece.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen entered quietly.<\/p>\n<p>She wore a sweater despite the warmth.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret barely glanced at her.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen came to my side.<\/p>\n<p>For a second, I thought she wanted to whisper something.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, she reached beneath her sleeve.<\/p>\n<p>She placed a folded hospital statement beside my hand.<\/p>\n<p>I opened it.<\/p>\n<p>The amount was not huge compared with the money spread across the other papers.<\/p>\n<p>That was exactly why it hurt.<\/p>\n<p>The date was from the same week as one of Paige\u2019s purchases.<\/p>\n<p>I looked toward my sister.<\/p>\n<p>She was still talking about vacations.<\/p>\n<p>Then at Margaret.<\/p>\n<p>She was still explaining how much the renovations had improved the value of the house.<\/p>\n<p>Neither noticed the paper Gwen had placed in front of me.<\/p>\n<p>I read the date again.<\/p>\n<p>Then the amount.<\/p>\n<p>Three hundred dollars had once stood between Gwen and getting help sooner.<\/p>\n<p>Now I was looking at proof that thousands had been spent elsewhere during the same period.<\/p>\n<p>I did not need another speech.<!--nextpage--> <\/p>\n<p>I needed a complete record.<\/p>\n<p>So I kept playing the role they expected.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGood,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret smiled.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe kept everything.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m glad.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That afternoon, I began sorting.<\/p>\n<p>Not accusing.<\/p>\n<p>Sorting.<\/p>\n<p>Money in.<\/p>\n<p>Money out.<\/p>\n<p>What had been purchased.<\/p>\n<p>When.<\/p>\n<p>For whom.<\/p>\n<p>Gwen sat nearby.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes she answered a question.<\/p>\n<p>Mostly, she rested.<\/p>\n<p>That itself was a change.<\/p>\n<p>For the first time since I came home, nobody ordered her to clean anything while I was in the room.<\/p>\n<p>Paige grew bored with paperwork quickly.<\/p>\n<p>Margaret did not.<\/p>\n<p>She kept bringing me more.<\/p>\n<p>Every stack made her more confident.<\/p>\n<p>Every stack made me quieter.<\/p>\n<p>At one point she tapped an invoice.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou see? We didn\u2019t waste your money.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I looked at her.<\/p>\n<p>Then at Gwen sleeping in the chair beside me, her knitted cap folded in her lap.<\/p>\n<p>I remembered the hospital bandage.<\/p>\n<p>The biopsy scar.<\/p>\n<p>The $150.<\/p>\n<p>I looked back at my mother.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI see a lot.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She smiled, misunderstanding me completely.<\/p>\n<p>That evening, I took Gwen back to the storage room.<\/p>\n<p>She sat on the bed.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou found something?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI found enough to know I need the rest.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She looked frightened.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat are you going to do?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I sat beside her.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFirst?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I took her hand.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019re not sleeping in here another night.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her eyes widened.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat about Margaret?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe can be angry.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat about Paige?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cShe can be angry too.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Gwen looked 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